Monday, October 17, 2016
Finding Your True Colors When Life Hits You With an Autumn
For a few years I've been contemplating on the comparison of Autumn: the withdrawal of photosynthesis from leaves, and how in that one action, the "real' colors that have always been there all along are finally able to show through in all their brilliance, and compare that to our lives.
I don't quite have the perfect comparison, because there are so many. In one way, I love that it shows that near the end of it's life cycle, the leaves still have so much of it's self to show, to give, to share with the world! So do we!
How often do we take the time to share our gifts with the world as we get older?
How often do we ASK the older people we encounter to share their gifts, talents, wisdom, memories?
Another perspective on Autumn leaves changing to their "real" hidden colors, is when you have to grow up with challenges of some kind. Either due to your family circumstances, or bad things that happened that you have to overcome, but you have kind of a "covering" of issues that is overshadowing some of your hidden joy, talents, direction in life, choices, etc. and you, struggle, work, search, pray and finally get to a place where you find YOUR path. where you shake off that covering and your colors start to show through.. You don't label yourself as the person you were told you were, you overcome and even forgive the hurts that caused the scars, You turn weakness into strength, you discover hidden talents and come out of a shell... what a joy that is!
May the beauty of your "autumn" be full of the deepest joys, peace, and feelings of being on the path of YOUR purpose!
Sunday, July 24, 2016
Taking On the Name of Christ
I was recently asked to speak in our Church's Sabbath Worship, called Sacrament Meeting. This is the talk I gave.
Sunday July 24, 2016
There I was, 8 years old, getting ready for my
baptism, watching them fill up the baptismal font and watching the steam rise
as it filled. Thinking of the warmth I would soon feel as I entered the waters
of baptism.
Soon I was shaking a bit. Nerves? Yes, I was
nervous, but also because that steam wasn’t because the water was warm… it was
because the room was warm and the water was … FREEZING!
No, the warmth I felt at my baptism may not have
come from the water, but it did come from the joy I felt at partaking of this
most precious ordinance of the gospel.
Once baptized, we take on Christ’s name and with
it the responsibility to act in his name, on his behalf. That seems like such a
daunting task at times. But he has provided us ways to know how to do this.
One of the most beautifully written is The Living
Christ. Written in April 2000 by the First Presidency and Quorum of the 12
Apostles, it is a declaration of the life and ministry of our living Christ.
Let me share with you the first paragraphs.
The Living Christ:
"As we commemorate the birth of Jesus Christ two
millennia ago, we offer our testimony of the reality of His matchless life and
the infinite virtue of His great atoning sacrifice. None other has had so
profound an influence upon all who have lived and will yet live upon the earth.
He was the Great Jehovah of the Old Testament,
the Messiah of the New. Under the direction of His Father, He was the creator
of the earth. “All things were made by him; and without him was not any thing
made that was made” (John 1:3). Though sinless, He was baptized to fulfill all
righteousness. He “went about doing good” (Acts 10:38), yet was despised for
it. His gospel was a message of peace and goodwill. He entreated all to follow
His example. He walked the roads of Palestine ,
healing the sick, causing the blind to see, and raising the dead. He taught the
truths of eternity, the reality of our premortal existence, the purpose of our
life on earth, and the potential for the sons and daughters of God in the life
to come."
Click here to read the entire document
Click here to read the entire document
1.)"He went about doing good
Not only did Christ go about
doing good works, he did good works that were hard and were NOT popular, or
were tiring, or probably inconvenient! The story in St. John chapter 8 comes to mind of the woman
that was brought before him who was caught in sin and the punishment was to be
to stone her.
In his very loving way, he asked for those
without sin to cast the first stone. But what I love besides that, is the very next verse. It isn’t talked about
much, but it’s the verse I need to hear the most!
What did
Christ do?
Vs: 8 And again he stooped down, and wrote on the ground.
Vs: 8 And again he stooped down, and wrote on the ground.
Now the
reason this means so much to me, is that I know myself, that when I am in the
mode of protective “mama bear” and stepping
in to stop someone from being stoned, I can tell you I am not usually just
going to quietly sit down. No, an eye to eye stare down with my arms
crossed and a “don’t mess with me” look
on my face is more my style.
Christ just
left them to quietly contemplate what he
said, not judgement and accusations. he acted with peace and goodwill towards them, even the accusers.
For me,
it’s this tiny little action, of how he treated the accusers, the stone
throwers, that is such a bigger, deeper
faith building lesson on the true divinity of Christ. It truly shows his true
nature, and mission. He truly treated ALL men with peace and goodwill.
Many of us are willing to
step in front of stones, but how do we treat the stone throwers?
I need to work on this one.
I need to work on this one.
As I've gotten more experienced with my
responsibilities of acting on Christs behalf, I've learned to better recognize
the promptings or whisperings of the Holy Ghost nudging me to do things that
are out of my planned things for the day.
A wise Christian
will learn to heed those promptings right away without questioning them or
delay. I usually tell my children when they were growing up. "If you get
the idea to do something for someone, if it is a kind and good thing... then just
do it. Don't stop to question whether it is a prompting or not. Just go and
don't delay doing it." You'll be amazed at the blessings that will come to
you and to others when you just make this a practice in your life.
My husband is such a great example of this. Our next door neighbor, Bob, has passed away
now, but we were very close and miss him dearly. One day while we were driving
home from running errands we were literally just a mile or so from home when
Jay felt the need to call Bob and just check on him. Although to me, I thought
it could wait till we got home.. in like 1 minute, Jay proceeded to call him.
It turned out Bob was in the parking lot of the grocery store and was having such a low blood
sugar he was nearly in a coma. We were just pulling off of the highway right where the grocery store is when we called, and Jay had some glucose with him and we were able to
get him treated literally within a minute or so. Our beloved Bob had a few more
years to bless our lives, and I am forever grateful for the lesson I learned
from my husband that day to not delay a simple prompting as to pick up the
phone and check on someone. "Even though I am almost home.... I will go
and do the thing the Lord commands".
2) His message was of Peace and Goodwill:
In a BYU Devotional: Julie Franklin spoke of
this:
When Christ was in situations where He was challenged,
confronted, or pestered, we read of a man who stood firm and unshaken. When He
rebuked individuals who needed correction, His words were measured and
delivered with the precise level of emotion to bring about the desired result.
During the events leading to the Crucifixion, Jesus Christ did not shrink. I
love the account where Christ was taken into custody and Peter, the loyal
Apostle, drew his sword and cut off the ear of one of the high priest’s
servants. Jesus did not use the opportunity to run, nor to feel smug that
someone else might suffer a fraction of what He had and would endure. He also
did not criticize Peter. With a few of what I would characterize gentle words
to Peter, He simply touched the servant’s ear and healed him.11We have no
evidence Jesus was ever out of control; instead, in all things He displayed
peace.
As for
finding evidence of a person who possessed good will, there has never been
another person whose entire life reflected benevolence more completely than
Jesus Christ. At the lowest level of good will, I believe we simply think
kindly or hope the best for others. At the highest level of good will, I
believe we have charity. At some point in the middle I think we are service
oriented. It appears Jesus never acted without considering the impact of His
behavior on others. He comforted, gave hope, taught, healed the sick, and
raised the dead. We know the Savior possessed charity; He provided us with the
Atonement. In fact, He possessed charity so perfectly that when Mormon defined
the wordcharity as “the
pure love of Christ,”
- Simply
put, we just need more kindness in the world today.
- We
need to treat others that are different than us without fear or judgment
but with a kindness for a brother /sister in our Heavenly Father’s kingdom.
- Spread
more joy, kindness, tolerance, goodwill, peace,
- Use
uplifting words-language-and thoughts.
- Stand
up for people who are not being treated well, even if they are outside of
your comfort zone.
The church has asked us all to reach out to
refugees. We all can do more to lift up and bless the lives of others and spread goodwill!
You may have
seen the story on social media of the LDS scout troop that took this challenge
to heart and teamed up with the international rescue committee and built/put
together some donated bikes and then taught the refugees how to ride them. What
a blessing! They may not have money yet to own their own cars to get around,
but to now own a bike, and know how to ride it. What a blessing for them! And
what a wonderful experience for the scouts as well on serving God’s children.
Since I shared a story about my husband I’ll share a story about one of my children, and how easy it can be to
make a difference in the lives of those
in need.
Our oldest
son Joshua had a student move into his class in first grade that had come as a
refugee from another country. He’s 26 years old now, so this was quite a few
years ago, but the student spoke no English at the time. Joshua buddied up with him instantly to help
him learn English and make sure he knew what to do in class and around
school. I remember the teacher telling
me how impressed she was that Josh would do that, but the part that made us
chuckle a bit, but was so sweet was at that time, if you did something good,
you could earn “bobcat” bucks. Then at
certain times of the year you could go redeem those earned “dollars” at the
school office for certain prizes. Well, Josh was very concerned that his new
friend did not have a proper understanding of the value of the good old American bobcat
buck so he insisted on being allowed to accompany his friend to redeem his
dollars to make sure he got his money’s worth and wasn’t “ripped off
and given junk” by some cunning
office secretary! They became life long friends all the way through high school
and each was such a good influence on the other. (and his grandmother made the
BEST spring rolls ever! )
Helping others can be as simple as helping those in our neighborhoods and communities know what we know. Share what we have, the smallest things really do mean the most, and can bring about the biggest changes in their lives and in ours.
Helping others can be as simple as helping those in our neighborhoods and communities know what we know. Share what we have, the smallest things really do mean the most, and can bring about the biggest changes in their lives and in ours.
Let me close with
the words of Ezra Taft Benson:
"Yes, Christ
changes men, and changed men can change the world.
Men changed
for Christ will be captained by Christ. Like Paul they will be asking, “Lord,
what wilt thou have me to do?” (Acts 9:6.) Peter stated, they will “follow his
steps.” (1 Pet. 2:21.) John said they will “walk, even
as he walked.” (1 Jn. 2:6.)
Finally, men
captained by Christ will be consumed in Christ. To paraphrase President Harold
B. Lee, they set fire in others because they are on fire. (Stand Ye in Holy
Places, Salt Lake City:
Deseret Book Co., 1974, p. 192.)
Their will
is swallowed up in His will. (See John 5:30.)
They do
always those things that please the Lord. (See John 8:29.)
Not only
would they die for the Lord, but more important they want to live for Him".
Thursday, February 18, 2016
The Bigger Picture: Why I Force Myself To Be In Photos
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| Gramma, Pawpaw, and our 2 grandbabies |
If you know me at all, you know I detest (Hate with a capital H) my picture being taken.
I'd rather be behind the camera, thank you very much.
The Flaws:
When I look at photos of myself I just cringe. ugghh! I dislike the way I look, the double chin, glasses slightly askew, my hair.. always looks messy.. I could go on and on.
What They See:
BUT I learned along time ago that when the day comes that you are gone. Your children and grandchildren won't look at your photos and see all your flaws.
They only see you, their mama, their gramma. The woman they love. The woman they miss.
- They see the twinkle in your eye from the funny joke you just cracked, not your glasses.
- They notice that your hair was always "messy" because you never stopped moving, cooking, cleaning, helping with homework, etc to bother looking in the mirror at yourself.
- Seeing you in your apron in the kitchen with flour all over yourself reminds them of the homemade pizza (or insert your famous recipe here). They can almost smell it when the see the photo.
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| Me (Gramma) and my granddaughter making her first pizza. |
So you stop and smile:
We Stop the negativity: Women, especially us women. We are so hard on ourselves. (me too!) We just avoid having our photos taken.
What message are we sending our daughters? What are we telling our sons to expect from their wives? We teach our children about life, themselves, and how they should be by our actions even more than our words. What are we teaching them when we say: I hate my picture. I am so this, and so that. We may never grow to like having our photos taken (I won't) but we can learn to suppress our angst over them. Stop sending out negative messages.
We Smile: We have all lost people we love suddenly with no warnings. What if that is you. How many precious pictures have you left for them? seriously..how many?
You do not know when the last time to document those precious memories will be, so please, please, do it for them. sit for the pictures. Smile and hug, and laugh in them.
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| My children with their Great Nana Kelley. many years ago. It was probably the last one they all got with her. |
Labels:
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Saturday, January 9, 2016
Our Divine Nature and the Tigger Effect!
Many years ago I saw an episode of Winnie the Pooh. In this particular show, Tigger had lost his stripes. WIthout his stripes he thought he was no longer tigger. He went around trying to figure out what he was now... a rabbit?...no. A Kanga?... no, on and on it went. His friends tried to convince him he was still a tigger, He still could bounce like tigger, he sounded like tigger....but without the visable stripes he couldn't be convinced. Tigger had to Iearn all by himself, that he had never stopped being tigger.
I walked away from watching that show with 2 questions for myself:
1) How many times do I let myself feel less than what I am: "A beautiful daughter of a loving God" because of my appearance, or my obvious failures, of lack of any obvious talents, etc. and yet all our friends and family can't convince us we are still a beautiful daughter of a loving God. We can spend time putting our selves down, spinning our wheels, getting in our own way.. and it changes NOTHING about the fact that you are STILL a beautiful child of a loving God. No one else can make you believe this. Only each of us can do the work to figure that out. DON"T SPEND ONE MORE DAY trying to be something you are not, or treating yourself in a way you would NEVER let yourself treat someone else! Do as I say.. not as I do.. this one is a work in progress...
2) How often do I see others for less than they are: A beautiful son or daughter of a loving God? Maybe based on their appearance, lifestyle, religion, life choices.. sometimes we overlook people, judge them without knowledge of their true circumstances (Social media sure makes this easy).. I still don't know exactly how to spot the ways in which I may be dismissing people in my mind and heart as one that surely God loves less than the "rest" of us.. but I have a desire and prayer to know. I strive every day to do acts of small kindnesses ,even a smile to everyone I see. This one will be a work in progress too.
I must run.. my stripes are missing and I must go find them!
I walked away from watching that show with 2 questions for myself:
1) How many times do I let myself feel less than what I am: "A beautiful daughter of a loving God" because of my appearance, or my obvious failures, of lack of any obvious talents, etc. and yet all our friends and family can't convince us we are still a beautiful daughter of a loving God. We can spend time putting our selves down, spinning our wheels, getting in our own way.. and it changes NOTHING about the fact that you are STILL a beautiful child of a loving God. No one else can make you believe this. Only each of us can do the work to figure that out. DON"T SPEND ONE MORE DAY trying to be something you are not, or treating yourself in a way you would NEVER let yourself treat someone else! Do as I say.. not as I do.. this one is a work in progress...
2) How often do I see others for less than they are: A beautiful son or daughter of a loving God? Maybe based on their appearance, lifestyle, religion, life choices.. sometimes we overlook people, judge them without knowledge of their true circumstances (Social media sure makes this easy).. I still don't know exactly how to spot the ways in which I may be dismissing people in my mind and heart as one that surely God loves less than the "rest" of us.. but I have a desire and prayer to know. I strive every day to do acts of small kindnesses ,even a smile to everyone I see. This one will be a work in progress too.
I must run.. my stripes are missing and I must go find them!
Labels:
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Tuesday, January 5, 2016
That Moment of Panic in the Dark and Keeping to God's Path
I deliver an early morning paper route. I always start in the dark and end in the dark. On the way home there is a slight curve in the road right as you are going through an intersection.
No big deal, there are a lot of those out there, right?
Well like most intersections, the middle dividing line between the lanes is not there. It picks back up as you get on the other side of the intersection. The problem is that when they painted that line, they didn't start it immediately on the other side. Due to the curve in the road, the line being set further away, and the dark there is a moment nearly every morning where I feel like I've lost site of where the lane on the other side is.
If I don't adjust to the curve, I'll be in the oncoming lane, but with no edge lines on either side of the road, and no daylight to help you really need that middle line to help remind you of where you need to be.
You would think that after 20 years of driving on that road in the dark I'd have it down pat,but over and over again I have a moment of panic that I've lost sight of the lane.
It reminded me of the gospel, and holding on to the iron rod. (the word of god and his plan for how we should live.)
The commandments and all of the words of God that guide us as to how we should stay on the path that will lead us back to our Heavenly Father are right in front of us and available, but sometimes we lose sight of the path. Mostly due to our own choices and mistakes, but sometimes due to unforseen trials that mar our path.
Just like my moment of panic in the dark, when we lose sight of our Heavenly Father and the path he has laid out for us, we often have a moment of panic. Where do I go? Where did God go? How do I find Him? How do I get back on the path?
I have driven that road now long enough to know that the line is just a foot or two ahead and to hold steady till I see it. I do not need to veer too far one way or the other, When we lose sight of the gospel path we have a way back:
Lets just start with Prayer. No mistake, no amount of anger or lonliness will stop Him from hearing you. The moment you turn away from prayer is the very moment you need it the most! Give him your sorrows, your pain, even your anger.. He will take it and help you find your way back.
Turn to His words through scripture as well as our modern day Church leaders. There is a saying.. If you want to speak to God, pray. If you want to hear from God, read your scriptures. It is so true! Put it to the test! Pick them up and try.
Talk with trusted church leaders.family and friends. Isolation will only keep the path to happiness further in the dark. Trust them to guide you back to the path of the gospel.
Don't stay off of the path to God any longer than you have to. Use the atonement to be forgiven if you need it, forgive others yourself, speak wtih God and Listen to him. Then take action.... actually move your feet back to the lane you know he wants you to be in!
No big deal, there are a lot of those out there, right?
Well like most intersections, the middle dividing line between the lanes is not there. It picks back up as you get on the other side of the intersection. The problem is that when they painted that line, they didn't start it immediately on the other side. Due to the curve in the road, the line being set further away, and the dark there is a moment nearly every morning where I feel like I've lost site of where the lane on the other side is.
If I don't adjust to the curve, I'll be in the oncoming lane, but with no edge lines on either side of the road, and no daylight to help you really need that middle line to help remind you of where you need to be.
You would think that after 20 years of driving on that road in the dark I'd have it down pat,but over and over again I have a moment of panic that I've lost sight of the lane.
It reminded me of the gospel, and holding on to the iron rod. (the word of god and his plan for how we should live.)
The commandments and all of the words of God that guide us as to how we should stay on the path that will lead us back to our Heavenly Father are right in front of us and available, but sometimes we lose sight of the path. Mostly due to our own choices and mistakes, but sometimes due to unforseen trials that mar our path.
Just like my moment of panic in the dark, when we lose sight of our Heavenly Father and the path he has laid out for us, we often have a moment of panic. Where do I go? Where did God go? How do I find Him? How do I get back on the path?
I have driven that road now long enough to know that the line is just a foot or two ahead and to hold steady till I see it. I do not need to veer too far one way or the other, When we lose sight of the gospel path we have a way back:
Lets just start with Prayer. No mistake, no amount of anger or lonliness will stop Him from hearing you. The moment you turn away from prayer is the very moment you need it the most! Give him your sorrows, your pain, even your anger.. He will take it and help you find your way back.
Turn to His words through scripture as well as our modern day Church leaders. There is a saying.. If you want to speak to God, pray. If you want to hear from God, read your scriptures. It is so true! Put it to the test! Pick them up and try.
Talk with trusted church leaders.family and friends. Isolation will only keep the path to happiness further in the dark. Trust them to guide you back to the path of the gospel.
Don't stay off of the path to God any longer than you have to. Use the atonement to be forgiven if you need it, forgive others yourself, speak wtih God and Listen to him. Then take action.... actually move your feet back to the lane you know he wants you to be in!
Thursday, November 19, 2015
Changing Lanes on Life's Highway
Do you ever have one of these days? As i was driving home from work today a woman in an SUV kept weaving in and out of lanes, often at the last moment trying to keep getting ahead, but every stoplight found her right back in the same spot..in front of me.
I don't know why she was driving crazy, we all do it sometimes, but it made stop and think, how often do we live our lives like that: choosing anxiousness. We spend our days zigging and zagging around, either "trying to tackle" or even "avoid" our , problems and thoughts. Only to find ourselves right back where we started. And,in the end we don't solve our problems or avoid them.
Note to self: Every day is a new chance to choose peace and calm, clarity and decisiveness over anxiety and doubt.
Don't just keep spinning your wheels!
I don't know why she was driving crazy, we all do it sometimes, but it made stop and think, how often do we live our lives like that: choosing anxiousness. We spend our days zigging and zagging around, either "trying to tackle" or even "avoid" our , problems and thoughts. Only to find ourselves right back where we started. And,in the end we don't solve our problems or avoid them.
Note to self: Every day is a new chance to choose peace and calm, clarity and decisiveness over anxiety and doubt.
Don't just keep spinning your wheels!
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Stress
The Sound Of My Grandma's Voice...
Sound memories may be one of the deepest in your heart!
A few years ago, when my oldest son was leaving home to live in Taiwan for 2 years as a Missionary, my parents came to visit. They brought with them an old vhs tape they had made when my oldest son, Joshua was a few months old. in the video, it was a backyard cookout at my parents home in Idaho.
My grandmother was there, although you couldn't see her in the video. My grandmother had since passed away and at the time I was watching that video had been gone for quite a few years. At some point in the video all of a sudden I could hear my grandmothers voice talking in the background... At that very moment, the familiarity of her voice was instantaneous to my heart My heart hurt from missing her in that moment.. Oh, Oh, how I missed that voice!!!!! I loved how I had not forgotten the sound of her voice
. I loved how our relationship carries on even as one of us has past onto the other side of Heaven.
I still feel her presence in my life, it is a real and active,continuing relationship. I have read somewhere that what may surprise us the most when we get to the other side is how familiar our Heavenly Father's face will be to us, and how we will remember the sound of his voice. Oh, how I believe that!
A few years ago, when my oldest son was leaving home to live in Taiwan for 2 years as a Missionary, my parents came to visit. They brought with them an old vhs tape they had made when my oldest son, Joshua was a few months old. in the video, it was a backyard cookout at my parents home in Idaho.
My grandmother was there, although you couldn't see her in the video. My grandmother had since passed away and at the time I was watching that video had been gone for quite a few years. At some point in the video all of a sudden I could hear my grandmothers voice talking in the background... At that very moment, the familiarity of her voice was instantaneous to my heart My heart hurt from missing her in that moment.. Oh, Oh, how I missed that voice!!!!! I loved how I had not forgotten the sound of her voice
. I loved how our relationship carries on even as one of us has past onto the other side of Heaven.
I still feel her presence in my life, it is a real and active,continuing relationship. I have read somewhere that what may surprise us the most when we get to the other side is how familiar our Heavenly Father's face will be to us, and how we will remember the sound of his voice. Oh, how I believe that!
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